TURNING 35
I am excited about my 35th birthday. I have been looking forward to this day since November 2021, when I started writing this, during one of the most difficult times of my life. By the time this is published, I would have lived for 420 months, 1820 weeks, 12,740 days, 305,760 hours, 18,345,600 minutes, and 1,100,736,000 seconds. That is a lot of numbers, and I am thankful to God for every second of these 35 years.
On April 5 this year, I read from Psalm
138, it resonated then and now, and it’s my Scripture and Psalm for today.
I praise the LORD with all my heart. I praise the LORD, for unfailing love and faithfulness, for answering me
when I call and for greatly emboldening me. I praise the LORD who will vindicate me, whose love endures forever.
I had high hopes for myself, and many people had high hopes
for me too. I had many false starts though, and many failures. Some of the
fears I had when I turned
24 came true. 35 and nothing to show for it the way the world measures
success. No titles or properties. Well-meaning people sometimes remind me of
the many things I do not have. This year though, I do not want to forget the
many things I have, the many ways that God has been good to me, and how I reflect
God’s great love, even the teeniest bit.
You see, at 35, I have done a lot more than I imagined I
would at 24. I have bought a lot of books, paid a lot of school fees, and paid
some hospital bills too. I have taught a lot of people, opened their eyes to
see their excellence, and spurred them to be their better selves. I have prayed
for people. I have seen and listened to many people. I have been the life of
many parties. I have started many conversations. I have learned many songs and
read many books. I have written a few articles, poems, and short stories. Oh, I
have danced!
At 35, I have poured out myself to the ones I love, and I will
do it all over again if I have to.
What am I doing? Boasting? God forbids! I make no claim to superiority.
The point of the list is not to say that I am somewhat worthy or better than
some. Rather, I hope to spur you to celebrate the seemingly ordinary things God
has accomplished through you.
The truth is, everyone has something and can do something,
but we often focus on what we don’t have and what we cannot do and unwittingly
slide into discontentment and desperation, a combination that is a highway to
the abyss. So, instead of regret, shame, discontentment, envy, and desperation,
I choose to count my blessings.
There’s something else, however. I have lived most of the
last 35 years on other people’s terms. That is changing now. While I do not
know whether I have another 35 years, going forward, I intend to be very
deliberate about living my life on God’s terms, the way He has shown me to live
it. It doesn’t have to make sense to anybody. I have only one life to live. I don’t
know of any spare parts market for spare life, therefore, no more people
pleasing.
If it pleases God to give me another 35 years, on my 70th birthday, I want to be known as the girl who doesn’t care about what people would say, the girl who doesn’t fear death. No more letting fear control me. No more fearing the worst. It’s a new season. I want to pursue the things that are most important to me, as I mentioned in my article, “Against Time”. I want to focus on – loving the ones God has blessed me with, writing the pieces burning inside of me, and pursuing justice and mercy, especially through my “Love Projects”, as my friend, Judith tagged them. I want to learn a lot too. I want to bathe in the world God made and drink as much as my faculties and senses can absorb through formal and informal learning.
Photo by Judith Owoicho |
More loving
More reading
More writing
More preaching
Finally publishing
A few PhDs if it pleases God
More debates. speeches, and teaching
Lots of travel, as much as I can afford, or I am gifted with
More beauty and nature
More music!
Still more loving, giving and receiving, and
More undignified dancing!
I often say that people are my clothes. It’s true. I have
been so blessed with the gift of people. It is beautiful when family members
become friends and friends become family. I am blessed to have my family as
friends and friends as family. I am also grateful to all the ones who give to
my love projects, and who read my writings. May God bless you abundantly, supply
and increase your store of seed, enlarge the harvest of your righteousness, and
enrich you in every way possible.
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